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Welcome to my Journeys in coaching blog series. Join me as I share composite stories that authentically reflect the transformative process and profound shifts in perspective that resulted from real coaching sessions. They offer valuable insights and strategies you can apply in your own life and work. Get a genuine feel for my approach, and the type of breakthroughs and paradigm shifts that can emerge when a coach and coachee explore pivotal moments together.

𝗕𝗲𝘁𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗧𝘄𝗼 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱𝘀, 𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗨𝗻𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗧𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀.

Have you ever noticed how the most profound insights come from our most uncomfortable transitions?

Elena, a senior leader with a 15-year career in healthcare technology, faced a crossroads when her mother's health deteriorated. Living in Spain while her parents were in Sweden created an impossible situation. After difficult conversations, she and her partner decided to relocate.

Elena negotiated a 7 month leadership transition—enough time, she believed, to complete key initiatives and transfer her team of 23 and relationships to her successor.

During our third coaching session, Elena placed her notebook on the table with unusual heaviness.

An hour in, I asked: "What is making this so tough?"

"In the strategy meeting I maintained composure. Everyone thought I was fine," she said, hands trembling slightly. "But inside? I felt like I was grieving something I hadn't expected to lose."

I remained silent, sharing the moment with her.

"What am I really grieving here?" she finally said.

As Elena explored her inquiry, I was reminded of William Bridges' insight about acknowledging necessary endings before new beginnings can emerge.

In the following two months, Elena arrived for our sessions sometimes speaking rapidly, other times sitting in contemplative silence.

"It's like I'm helping someone redecorate a house I built brick by brick while still living in it," she said, looking out the window. "And I feel a responsibility to make it look effortless."

"Are there lessons in this experience you couldn't unlock any other way?" I ventured.

As weeks passed, Elena uncovered insights that surfaced naturally:

She gained a rare perspective few leaders experience. "I understand leadership differently now. I knew how to lead from the center. What I've learned is to operate effectively from the periphery."

She developed deeper self-compassion. "When I stopped criticising myself for feeling loss, I found more energy for what mattered."

Most significant was her understanding of presence. "I used to think good leadership meant always being there," she reflected during our final session. "Now I understand the power in discerning when to let go and when to be fully present."

By our last meeting, Elena had transformed necessity into a catalyst for growth—carrying these insights into her new leadership role.

For leaders navigating similar transitions: your feelings are valid. This type of experience, while difficult, can become wisdom that serves your entire career.

What transition are you navigating, and what unexpected wisdom might be waiting there?